Well, friends, I am officially full term and waiting on Baby girl Joyce to make her debut any day now. If you follow me on Instagram, you've seen a bit of my pregnancy journey. I thought I might share some of my frequently asked questions here. I love reading all of my friends' or would-be-friends' (as I call the bloggers whom I follow but don't actually know in real life) posts on pregnancy and thought perhaps a few of you might enjoy hearing about mine. If you're only reading this blog for the weddings and flowers, I completely understand, and you should just keep scrolling :)
1. How did you find out? We are incredibly grateful that we had only been trying for a couple of months when we found out we were expecting. Even though we were actively trying, it still felt like such a shock when those two pink lines showed up. I hadn't felt any different and thought that must mean it was going to be negative. Michael kept saying "Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh!" It was one of my favorite moments - suddenly we were both changed; we were going to be parents. We got dressed up and headed to dinner downtown at a French restaurant that we had always said we'd go to whenever we found out we were pregnant. It was surreal and wonderful.
2. First trimester symptoms: Y'all, morning sickness is no joke. Nausea hit me like a ton of bricks and lasted all day. I imagined morning sickness being like it is in the movies - beautiful, beaming pregnant woman wakes up, has bout of mild nausea, throws up a tiny bit, and then does yoga / finishes her perfect makeup / goes to work in her tiny pencil skirt and heels. You know, totally realistic and manageable. Ha! Unfortunately for me, I felt sick to my stomach pretty much all day - throwing up was often a relief! I remember having one of my first real 'Oh, okay, I'm officially pregnant, like reallll pregnant' moments when we were on vacation and visiting a pottery studio and I casually walked outside and upchucked into the bushes like it was a totally normal thing to do. I also had pretty much every pregnancy symptom in the book - metal mouth (awful sensation where you feel like your mouth is full of pennies, no matter what you eat/ drink), strong sensitivity to smells, heartburn, sore boobs, charlie horses, stuffy nose, headaches, having to pee every 5 minutes. I spent a lot of time googling 'is x a symptom of pregnancy' and 9 times out of 10, it always was.
3. How did you tell people? We really wanted to tell our families in person, but everyone is far away which made things a little tricky. We ended up video chatting Michael's parents before they headed to France with some of their best friends who had also just found out they were expecting their first grandbaby. We were heading to see my family on our annual vacation in Wisconsin a few weeks later so we made the tough decision to keep it a secret from them til then. After a very nauseas 16-hour car ride with my sister and brother-in-law (I still can't believe I didn't spill the beans during that trip), we made it to our lake house and I insisted everyone take a group family photo. Michael was behind the camera and instead of taking a photo, he was recording video. When he counted to 3 to 'take the photo,' we yelled "We're pregnant!" and everyone freaked out! It was so fun to have it all on video!
4. Favorite first trimester things?
- I was crazy for salt & vinegar chips and lemonade. Also, sour skittles. I've actually loved sour / vinegar-y things the entire pregnancy, which I think is pretty common.
- Sea sickness bands. I wore these from sunup to sundown. I was desperate for nausea relief and I think these may have helped (though, honestly, it was hard to tell - I think time was the only real thing that helped).
- I bought the BeBand by Ingrid & Isabelle early in pregnancy so when my regular jeans started to feel a little snug, I could still wear them comfortably.
- The Sprout App.
- Books: I'm a huge reader, so I devoured tons of pregnancy literature. My favorites from early pregnancy were Expecting Better, Bringing Up Bebe, What to Expect When You're Expecting, and Ina May Gaskin's Natural Childbirth.
- Hello, Little One baby book. One of the first things I bought when we found out we were expecting was this sweet, simple baby book. I wanted something neutral and more clean in design, and this one fit the bill. It asks questions about the pregnancy and baby's first year and has places to put their ultrasound, footprint, etc.
- Clinique Dramatically Different Moisturizing Lotion. My skin became super dry when I got pregnant so I switched to this rich moisturizer and it's made all the difference!
5. Are you going to keep working? Yes!! I absolutely love my job and feel incredibly lucky to do what I do. I can't imagine my life without flowers. Helping my clients think through what is important about their wedding day and how to translate that into a visual representation of themselves is a privilege I don't take lightly. I also love the idea of showing our daughter what it means to work hard and grow something you care about (while also being a mom!). Thankfully, I have a partner in Michael who is 100% supportive of my passions, and though we don't know exactly how the next few years will play out with balancing my business and growing our family, we are excited to work it out together (with lots of help)! I'm sure there are a lot of things I'm naive about in this whole work-life balance area, but I'm grateful for lots of women to whom I can look who are faithfully seeking both a productive, energizing work life and a rich, loving family life. This year, I've decided to pull back a bit and primarily focus on being a florist. I am actively booking 2018 full planning & design clients. And - as I'm sure some of y'all have seen on my Instagram stories - we are currently building a house with a separate studio for Mallory Joyce Design!
Thanks for reading! And thank you to all of my incredible friendors and clients who have been so overjoyed by our news. Your love and support mean so much to us. We know this little babe is going to take a village to raise and we are so thankful for ours!