I’m 25 today. Crazy, right? Well, it seems crazy to me. Do you remember when you were a kid and you’d imagine where you’d be at certain ages. At 25, I thought I’d be climbing the ladder at some high power, highly glamorous job. I thought I’d have all of my goals lined up neatly, checking them off one by one as if they were small errands on a to-do list. I’d be married, we’d live in a cute little house in a big city just like the one my parents lived in when they were 25. My life at 25 would be on a certain and stable trajectory toward success (and hopefully, fame; I did want to be a country singer, after all). 25 seemed so old, so mature.
And now, here it is: 25. It has arrived quickly and without much fanfare. A few things are true from the list of my childhood but more things are not. I am not vying for a big promotion nor am I finding myself on a clear vocational path; in fact, my goals and, subsequently, jobs have changed and changed again. We don’t live in a big city and, sadly, my country twang never quite developed properly.
And yet, I’m finding myself at 25 thankful, proud, hopeful. I am married (and I truly won the lottery there), and we do live in a cute little house that is more and more becoming our home. I am on some sort of meandering path to success; it has many detours and small alcoves for planting new gardens and breathing deeply. There is room on it to find my footing and my voice. The success part looks different as well: It’s much more colorful and a whole lot more self-made. It involves working diligently for the good of others, putting in lots of extra hours to cultivate creativity, and sustaining the courage to make my own way. So at 25, I can say I’m figuring it out. With a whole lot of tenacity and hopefully even more humility.
Here’s to 25, y’all! Thank you to all of you who have called, written, and made me feel loved today! And special thank you to M. I can’t wait for our surprise trip this weekend! Birthdays are the best.
Image: Me as a child. Pretty irrelevant but it makes me laugh every time.